“My life is full of problems. When I resolve one thing, I found myself in another difficulty. Ohh God!! Why it’s always me?” This is how we keep saying about obstacles in life.
We grow up playing around favourable and unfavourable conditions in life. Unless everything is going as per our expectations, we are happy. However, when the people and event does not go as desired or when we struggle with circumstances, we tend to see them as a problem.
“When we least expect it, life sets us a challenge to test our courage and willingness to change; at such a moment, there is no point in pretending that nothing has happened or in saying that we are not yet ready. The challenge will not wait. Life does not look back.”Paulo Coelho
Everything happens for a reason here. We cannot control everything around us but we can decide how those things affect us.
Let us see how we can better understand the situations called problems in life:
First of all: Having Problem is not a Problem:
Problems and Obstacles are sign of life. You cannot avoid them while alive. What we can do is that we can change our perspective to deal with them. As Theodore Rubin said, “The problem is not that there are problems. The problem is expecting otherwise and thinking that having problems is a problem.”
Whenever life offers you any difficulties or problems, remind yourself a formula:
“Problem => Form of Challenge => Opportunity to Grow”
Problems are a Form of Challenge:
Anyone can stay calm and happy when situations favours around us. It takes courage to keep going in the dark.
Take an example of any problem in your life. Are you struggling to get a job? Does any of your relationship is not working as expected? Are you facing financial crises? Are you having difficulties in your business or work or family life?
Each of these problem tests your courage. See them, as they are form of challenge. How you face these challenges is what determines our inner strength.
“The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy.”Martin Luther King, Jr.
Do you know that our selection of words and terms make huge difference in our mindset. Once we replace the word “problem” with “challenge”, we can face the situation with more courage.
See Challenge as an Opportunity to grow:
Each challenge is an Opportunity to grow. Stop avoiding them. They will serve as a ladder toward a better future. Kobe Bryant once said that, “Everything negative – pressure, challenges – is all an opportunity for me to rise.” This is true for everyone.
You have the power. Accept the life challenges. Review them and see what the root causes are. Once you identify the week point, you can work on that. You can get the best out of you.
“I want to challenge you today to get out of your comfort zone. You have so much incredible potential on the inside. God has put gifts and talents in you that you probably don’t know anything about.”Joel Osteen
If you are not doing well in job, see what skills you are lacking. If you stuck with a relationship, catch the missing factor. There is nothing a man cannot do if he willing to do.
Stand out of Crowd:
There may be millions of people going through the similar conditions as you. What most of them try to do? They simply react to situations and try to avoid the challenges.
However, that is not what wise people do. They do things differently. Instead of React, they rethink and act. They meet every challenge by opening their arms. Take the path less travelled; you will find yourself standing out of crowd.
“There are no great people in this world, only great challenges which ordinary people rise to meet.”William Frederick Halsey, Jr.
Before Life Challenges you, why do not you Challenge Life?
Often we want to stay safe in the existing jobs, relationships or business. However, this safe or comfort zone makes us week with the time. Life will push you out of your safe zone. This is the nature of life and we have to get going with this.
“I’ve learned in my life that it’s important to be able to step outside your comfort zone and be challenged with something you’re not familiar or accustomed to. That challenge will allow you to see what you can do.”J. R. Martinez
I will rather say you to take a step ahead. Before life challenges you, why do not you challenge life by frequently taking next step? See what you can do extra for your business/job/family. That way you will be able to enjoy the changes in life and no situation/challenge can hurt you.
“Challenges will never come to end. Why do not start enjoying them.”Deepak Rajpal